Sometimes I Think My Gynecologist Isn’t Listening

Apologies in advance if this is TMI (too much information) but I’m going to get into something rather personal that happened to me in the past few days. But it’s my blog, so if you don’t like it well, then stuff it!

So I’ve been commuting to and from my gyno over the past several weeks to deal with some foul fallopian fungus that I will not go into any further details on (and you’ll thank me for that, believe me!). My doctor has been my doctor for the past 10 years. We have a good relationship. For the most part. I go in for my yearly checkup and pap smear, and she tells me all is well. I won’t say who she is, but will suffice it to say that she expensive, and is considered one of the top gynos in Boston.

But one day back in February, I got the feeling that my doc was giving me the brush off. This was when I first noticed my symptoms and was prattling on about every single thought, feeling, and whim that accompanied my ordeal. My doctor, her head down as she took notes, seemed to go through long periods of writing, and long periods of just sitting there nodding her head.

Was she really listening to me? I mean really? I know that doctors are super busy, have hundreds or thousands of patients to keep track of, but dammit if I’m paying $150 a visit after my copay, I expect her to know every detail!

I developed this sneaking suspicion that she was not really listening to all of the details that were coming forth from my mouth — I have this theory about female gynecologists and how they can sometimes come off as less caring than male gynos. But that’s a story for another day…

So anyway I devised a plan to test her to see if she really was listening. On my next visit when she asked how I was doing, I specifically told her a sentence that I had planned before hand to see if she would be able to regurgitate it later. I told her that after coming home from a company party I felt the urge to urinate, but when I went to the bathroom, nothing came out! Strange! That was my sentence and that’s what I told her. I slipped in this mundane detail among all of the other mundane details I was prattling about on that day. And later i wanted to see if she could recall what happened at a later time.

So the next day, I gave her office a call and asked to speak with her. She of course was busy so they had her call me back. Which like in an hour later (don’t you hate how all doctors seem to make you wait for everything?).  She asked me what I wanted and I told her that I felt like she had not been listening to me lately. My doctor (who I will keep unnamed) responded that she listens to all of her patients. So as a test, I asked her what happened after I came home from work and felt the urge to urinate — to see if she had recalled that mundane detail. The doctor told me to hold on, and for a few moments it seemed as though the might be checking her notes. Gotcha! I thought to myself. There was no way my doctor was listening to that detail, let alone have it in her notes.

After a few minutes, the doc came back on the phone and to my surprise she responded that according to her notes, I had the urge to urinate but when I went to the bathroom nothing came out! I was floored! “H-how did you do that?” I asked her. It seemed like she indeed had been listening and recorded every single detail of what came out of my mouth! “Simple” she responded, I use a medical transcription service to record every single detail that comes out of your mouth in case I ever need to go back over the information or miss something. It’s how we doctors stay thorough. I felt like she was giving me a smug smile on the other end of the phone.

We ended up talking about transcription and such, and she told me the company she uses which is Perfect Transcription.  After several minutes of amicable chit chat, and profuse apologizing on my part, we hung up.

So that’s my story. I learned that my doctor is very thorough and even though she might not recall off hand every single detail that comes up during my visit, she has detailed recordings of everything that comes out of my mouth! So ya learn something new every day!

Why is Music Education Important?

Kids’ schedules are often loaded with various subjects, which is why parents have opened the debate of which subjects are more important and which should not be taught. However, every subject carries a grand deal of benefits and so does music. Even if your child is not a good singer and does not want to create a career in the future, music education is and will be highly important for their development. Read more to see why.

1.Music Improves Academic Skills

When children understand rhythm, scales and beat, they also develop their math skills and learn how to recognize patterns and create fractions. Reciting songs helps students develop their short-term and long-term memory. Furthermore, musical instrument classes help children learn about science, especially basic physics.

2. Music Improves Physical Skills

If you teach a child to play certain instruments, you can help them develop their motor skills and coordination by moving the arms, hands and feet. According to researchers, string and keyboard instruments demand simultaneous actions from both hands, which can prove to be especially beneficial for high-energy kids.

Instruments are known to enhance the coordination and timing skills, which can prove to be very beneficial in the future.

3.Music Encourages Teamwork

Music education often comes in the form of group classes that require communication, teamwork and interaction. When children need to create music together, they start learning how to adjust and play their part right. If they are speeding up too quickly or playing too loudly, they will learn to adapt and work in a team.

4.Music Refines Discipline

Music is taught step by step, which refines discipline and increases patience in students. In order to play an instrument, you have to start with the basics, such as holding the violin. This is taught in not hours, not days, but years of practice, especially if one wants to become great.

Why School Bullying Needs to End

For many times schoolyard bullying has been experienced in many schools thus affecting the lives of numerous kids who study in these schools. This practice often have massive effects on the lives of many kids in a negative way whenever they are trying to improve their lives. So schoolyard bullying needs to end and here are some of the reasons why:

1. Kids can get hurt, bad

This one is personal to me because my little brother got badly hurt by a bully. His name is Brian, and although he’s all grown up now back in 3rd grade he used to come home in tears claiming he was being teased. Mom told him to ‘fight back’ one day and that was the wrong answer. Brian did fight back but he literally got his face re-arranged in the process and had to have some facial cosmetic surgery to clear up some of the damage. He still has a scar on his cheek to this day.

2. Has psychological effects on the school-going children

Kids who are bullied can get crazy. It’s proven. Just read up on some of the history of the columbine shooting. Schoolyard bullying has lasting psychological effects on the school children that will ultimately affect the performance in class. For every parent, it is important that they do know how their kids do in school as this may affect the kids adversely if the condition is not corrected within the shortest time period.

3. It reduced mental health and increased feeling of sadness

Kids who are going to school might sometimes experience reduced mental health if they face consequences of schoolyard bullying. The only way to ensure that these kids are able to learn within such conditions, schoolyard bullying should always stop especially for those who need to improve their performance.

One consequence of schoolyard bullying is feeling of sadness among the children. However, through a psychological help, they will be able to understand on what they can do especially when looking for ideas on how it works in a special way. These kids will learn on how to deal with the situation when they want to feel good and happy.

4. Changes in sleep and eating patterns

Schoolyard bullying can lead to changes in sleep and eating patterns among kids who are going to school. This means parents must understand the behavior of their kids if they want to learn on how they can improve their ability to learn much easier. In the end, they will enjoy learning that would translate to better performances much easier.

5. Loss of interests in activities that they use to enjoy

One of the dangers of Schoolyard bullying is the Loss of interests in activities that they use to enjoy especially during their times within the schools. Nevertheless, dealings with Schoolyard bullying might be one of the easiest ways of talking to your kids on how they can grow as kids who will have massive effects on the society when they grow up to be responsible.

Don’t let your kid be a bully mom, or dad. And if your child is being bullied, make sure you address the problem in a careful manner instead of just telling your kid to ‘fight back’ because you run the risk of getting him or her hurt even more. Talk to a teacher to address the problem. And if the problem is severe, go to the police. And teachers, LOOK out for signs of bullying that are happening under your nose. Don’t turn a blind eye on these kids!

My Favorite Beauty Channel on YouTube

So this is my new blog. My name is Bridgette, nice to meet you! Welcome to my world. You’re about to enter a world of sugar, spice, and everything nice! I’m a girly girl, and I love my nails. I’m a big fan of Alexandra from the YouTube channel Alexandra’s girly talk. She’s a down to earth chick, and although she’s not the prettiest thing under the sun, her skill in beauty has her looking her best all the time. We can take a hint! She does nails, and all kinds of beauty topics. Wanna check her out?